"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." Lucille Ball
Do you love yourself? I mean truly, deeply love everything about who you are? Most of us don’t. Throughout our lives challenging experiences, and our interpretation of those experiences, have slowly chipped away at our self-worth. Maybe you had a mom who was very shaming or a neglectful father. You might have experienced bullying in school or had a partner who was unable to give you the love you deserve. You could be that person at work who has great ideas that are never recognized. The list of experiences that shape what you believe about yourself is endless. The good news is, you can take back your personal power and learn to cultivate self-love.
One simple, but powerful, exercise you can do to begin to cultivate self-love, is to keep track of every time you keep a promise to yourself. Here are some common examples of things we say we’re going to do, but maybe don’t follow through on.
*I am going to drink 32 ounces of water every day.
*I am going to prioritize sleep by going to bed earlier and keep my phone out of my bedroom (guilty!)
*I am going to put more effort into my friendships by meeting a friend for coffee twice this month.
*I am going to take more time to enjoy something I really like by going for a hike in nature this week.
*I am going to quit my dead-end job and find work that feeds my soul.
Because I am a visual and creative person, I wanted a fun way to keep track of every time I keep a promise to myself and came up with the idea of The Promise Jar.
Here’s how it works:
1. Make yourself some sort of tracker. I love being creative, so I made myself the decorated jar you see in the photo. It cost me like ten dollars to buy all the supplies at a local craft store.
2. Every night before I go to bed I reflect on the day. For every promise I keep to myself, I put a glass bead in the jar. I love doing this before bed because it’s a natural time to reflect on the day and I go to sleep with all the good feelings of promises kept.
3. Once the jar is full, I will reward myself with something I really want, or want to do. I’ve been wanting to try a float tank forever, so that’ll be my reward.
You can make a tracker in whatever way works for you. You could:
1. Use a whiteboard and make tally marks for each promise you keep
2. Find a habit tracker online and fill that in every night
3. Have a blank sheet of paper and draw a heart for every promise you keep, when the paper is full, treat yourself!
As you focus on keeping your promises to yourself, and see the visual representation of those promises grow, it will help to increase your feelings of self-love, and know that you are capable and worthy.
If you would like to go deeper into cultivating self-love, I am hosting the 14 Day Self-Love Challenge from February 1-14th. You’ll get information, exercises, and inspiration all focused around cultivating self-love. Not only that, but you’ll also be receiving 14 days of distance Reiki! I will be focusing on your heart and solar plexus chakras to help you in this process. Check out all the details at the link below. I am excited to have you join us for this transformative two weeks!